Culture Challenge of the Week: Young Women’s Vulnerabilities
The day is fast approaching when you’ll drop your little girl off at her freshmen dorm. After lugging her “stuff” to her new room, meeting the roommate, and exchanging hugs all around, the hours will speed by and you’ll be driving away, alone, all too soon.
For her, it’s the beginning of a brand new world of lectures, libraries, meal cards, parties, and guys. Unfortunately, it’s a world that’s increasingly likely to include sex, but not dating, relationships, or even healthy male-female friendships.
Welcome to the “hook-up culture.” Free and easy sex—with no emotional ties—is the supposedly sophisticated choice on campus these days.
Why would a girl willingly embrace such a social scene? A recent article in The New York Times, “Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too,” offers one explanation. The writer, who spent months interviewing young women from the University of Pennsylvania, reported that college-aged women prioritize resume-enhancing activities over time-draining relationships. Never mind the men who won’t grow up and commit to a relationship, these young women are so driven for career success, that they have no time, interest, or energy for real relationships.
Only time for meaningless sex.
Taylor’s article doesn’t hide the ugly sides of the hook-up culture. Many of the young women she interviewed confessed that they could only hook-up if they were intoxicated. In some tragic cases, girls become too intoxicated to say “no,” if they had a change of heart. (According to one survey cited in the article, nearly 14 percent of women have been victims of sexual assault on college campuses.)
Do these sound like empowered young women?
Some radical feminists would say yes, because they believe that the hook-up culture is “all about figuring out what you want and what you need.” Hanna Rosin’s 2012 article in The Atlantic argued that, “Women benefit greatly from living in a world where they can have sexual adventure without commitment or all that much shame, and where they can enter into temporary relation¬ships that don't get in the way of future success.”
The problem? It’s just not true.
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