As gay activists celebrate the overturning of DOMA, my heart goes out to them, since I know this social experiment is ultimately doomed to failure.
To be sure, I understand that this is just not a political victory for men and women who identify as gay and lesbian. It is an intensely personal, even emotional victory, just as President Obama’s statement last year that he now supported same-sex marriage brought tears to gay leaders like Andrew Sullivan.
To the homosexual community, the Supreme Court’s ruling speaks of legitimacy, equality and fairness. To them, it is a matter of family life, of moms (and moms) and dads (and dads) and kids, of proper societal standing, of a nation making right its grievous wrongs.
I truly get all that and I understand (while completely rejecting) the majority ruling in this case. And I know that we’ve been told that same-sex marriage is inevitable, that the tide has turned, that the polls make it clear that complete, sweeping change is just a matter of time. Give it a few more years, we are constantly reminded, and the older generation will die out – along with its antiquated views – and the younger, enlightened generation will rule the day.
To be quite honest, the day may come when same-sex marriage is the law of the land, but that doesn’t mean that it will not fail, and ultimately, society will rue the Court’s ruling of June 26, 2013.
Now, I fully expect my words to be cited by gay activists as representing yet another example of a close-minded conservative who was too proud (or bigoted or ignorant, or all of the above) to see the handwriting on the wall and quit before being totally disgraced. (Actually, there’s one more insult to be flung at me: I can’t give up my opposition to same-sex marriage because I make too much money on the issue. But of course!) Please feel free to cite me.
The truth be told, on January 1, 2008, I wrote down these words in my personal journal: “The first qualification for someone engaged in confronting homosexual activism is that you’d rather not do it because you’ve put yourself in the shoes of those you’re opposing, you see the world through their eyes, and you feel their pain.”
While gay activists will howl when they read this, God knows how deeply I meant it then and how deeply I mean it now.
So, this is not a personal battle for me. “My side” didn’t lose to “their side” on June 26th, and gay leaders are not my enemies (although I’m sure many perceive me as their enemy).