In our case especially. In 1961 shortly after the Bay of Pigs betrayal we landed in New Orleans, deepest darkest Dixie. Worse, the city then hosted a huge NASA project, attracting blue collar workers from surrounding states, Texas, Alabama, Mississippi. Here's backwoods states synonymous with hate and murderous bigotry--and here's the social class most prone to it.
After all, Peter Fonda says Easy Rider was gunned down here. Oliver Stone says JFK's murder was hatched here. Showcasing its villainy is a long-time fetish of Hollywood screenwriters and casters. We'd be lucky to get a welcome with mere tar and feathers. Firebombs and nooses were more likely.
My father was one of Castro's tens of thousands of political prisoners at the time, listening to the gallant Che's firing squads every dawn, wondering when his turn would come. My mother wondered too, but she didn't much time to indulge in things like despair. She was alone in a strange country, penniless and friendless, with three kids to somehow feed, shelter and school. Two nephews were also under a death sentence after fighting to the last bullet at the Bay of Pigs. (Actually, we had it relatively easy. Most Cuban refugee families can relate stuff ten times as hair-raising and heartbreaking.)
But a knock on the door in those early days and a burly stranger visible through the window wasn’t exactly comforting. We hadn’t been living in the humble apartment complex for long when it came. We peeked through the window, "AHHH!! Is that a WHITE HOOD?!!
No, it's Mrs Jeffrey from next door with her bleached blond bouffant.
"And what's she carrying?-- AAAHHH!! Is that a shotgun?! A rope?! A bomb?!"
No. It's a basket of fried chicken. And that's Mr. Jeffrey behind her. He's coming to offer help translating that job application.
The Jeffreys were originally from Texas. To liberals the place probably denotes religious nuts in Waco and sadistic yahoos dragging people to their death behind pick-up trucks. To us it's Mrs. Jeffrey with her big basket of food, and more importantly, with her big Texas smile. A few days later she took my mother shopping with her. Next day she consoled her during another sob-fest.
Mr. Jeffrey was a WWII vet and knew some Spanish. I'll never forget him sitting next to my mother, swerving from fiery rage to silent sympathy while apologizing to her in a heavy Texas twang for JFK's Bay of Pigs backstab- as if it was his doing, as if he hadn't done enough for others' freedom already!
But as Mr. Jeffrey saw it that was his flag on those ships off the Cuban coast in April 1961, his flag on the planes overhead. And his President who gave them the order to scram as Soviet artillery and armor poured in and Cuban patriots fought to the last bullet. Mr. Jeffrey had seen our flag go up over Manila. Dozens of his buddies who helped carry it fell along the way. He saw what that fluttering canvas meant to the delirious crowds who screamed and wept and cheered, knowing that freedom was at hand. The thought of it ordered to betray a freedom fight enraged and sickened him.
The following week comes another knock......"AAHH!!.... Something's on FIRE outside! Is that a burning CROSS?!
No it's Mr Simpson's Bar-B-cue. He always liked a BIG fire. (Remember Eddie Murphy's early skit about his uncle Gus Bar-B-Cueing? "Now THAT'S a FIRE!”)
That always reminded me of our upstairs neighbor Mr Simpson's fire. It was Mrs Simpson at the door, asking us over---in that hilarious (to us) Southern drawl--to share in that mountain of chicken and burgers the Simpsons and Jeffreys were scorching to celebrate America’s birthday. The Simpson's hailed from Birmingham. To liberals, no doubt, that's exclusively the land of Bull Connor and fire hoses and nothing more.
Our new neighbors knocked often. And this was in the very gizzard of the "bigoted" and "hate-filled" South. When you've just fled a Stalinist hell with the clothes on your back, when you find yourself in a strange land, penniless and not knowing the language, when nights are a sleepless, mind-churning marathon of worries: "did uncle Pepe fall to the firing squad this dawn? Is cousin Manolo still in hiding? Where's the next meal coming from? - how on earth will we pay for the kids schooling?" with all this going on, that stuff helps, believe me. (I speak here for my parent's generation. I was seven years old. Seemed like a Disney adventure to me.)
Later in the suburbs another family became even more special. Years before, the lady had worked at a local plant riveting the hulls on the famous Higgins boats, designed in New Orleans for Oil companies to traverse the shallow coastal marshes, then tweaked for work on such as Omaha Beach and Iwo Jima
These were "the boats that won WWII," according to Ike. One such boat carried her fiancé to shore at Salerno, another at Omaha Beach. He clambered out of yet another Higgins boat after crossing the Rhine, where a burst from a German machine gun riddled his legs.
Almost 40 years later I watched him limping up the aisle, grimacing slightly with each step. Then he broke into a huge smile-- while handing me his daughter as a bride.
The 4th of July before his passing 10 years ago Shirley complained that I’d burnt the (Bambi) burgers, as usual (too many foamy distraction from the nearby keg.) "I think they’re great!" he quickly turned to his daughter. "Sure beats my 4th of July cook-out in 1944."
That night, made expansive in these usually mum matters by the keg contents, we learned his 1944 feast had consisted of SPAM on a stick. The setting was near a quaint Norman village named St Lo. I brought pops-in-law another round from the keg and we learned that his Christmas eve feast that year consisted of frozen SPAM and the setting was a quaint little Belgian town named Bastogne. This was the first time his own daughter heard of his role in the very epicenter of a little dust-up later known as the Battle of the Bulge. Here's a trademark, I've noticed, of relatives of genuine combat veterans. Sure, we thrill at the newsreels on the History Channel. Those on the spot would rather forget that "thrill."
Weeks later my eyes popped as my mother-in-law pulled out an old satchel and displayed a Screaming Eagle shoulder patch and some medals I identified as a Bronze star, a Silver Star with Oak Leaf Clusters and many others. The Purple Hearts I had expected from his forehead scars and limp.
We landed in the South, but I've heard compatriots relate similar stories literally "from sea to shining sea."
Nobody called them "the Greatest Generation" back then. I guess the perspective wasn't there in the 60's. But thousands of then-destitute Cubans recall them as "el pueblo que nos abrio los brazos" (The people who opened their arms to us.)