Back in 2007, I received an email from a young woman whose life was a mess. It wasn’t as bad a mess as Tiger Woods’ life. But she was miserable. And the source of her misery was similar to Tiger’s. She had been sleeping around for a number of years and simply couldn’t find peace and happiness. Apparently, something she read in one of my columns convinced her she could no longer continue to have sex outside of marriage and expect happiness.
So she stopped sleeping with her boyfriend. He was pretty irritated because he was the one who recommended my columns to her in the first place. He thought the columns would affect her but really didn’t expect them to affect him – at least not in that particular way!
The column the young woman referenced was about the concept of “testing the fleece” to determine what God wants for your life. It also included an assertion that no matter what one’s past has been there is someone out there for everyone. If one makes a choice to walk with God he (or she) will not be punished with a lifetime of loneliness. God will provide someone for them regardless of their past. In other words, Christianity offers a promise of hope and redemption for even the worst of sinners.
About six months after this young woman told me she was splitting up with her boyfriend she wrote back to tell me she had met someone new. She met him at church and together they were learning to walk with God in ways they never had before. I was pleased to hear it. But I didn’t hear anything about the relationship for about two more years.
That changed in November when the woman wrote to ask me whether I was an ordained minister. I laughed before responding that I was not. Then I realized what she meant. The two were getting married. This woman who had thought she did not deserve a husband (and thought she had blown her chances of redemption) was wrong. She turned to Christianity and found a better life. She found redemption and she has now found happiness.
I shared this woman’s story in December when I was in a Karaoke bar Los Angeles. I was talking to a former cocaine addict who had turned his life around about a decade ago. He had given up drugs and alcohol and sex outside marriage since his conversion to Christianity. This was a decision he made after sleeping with over 100 different women.