As a lawyer, I sometimes have to deliver news that clients don’t want to hear. Here’s some for conservatives. The gay marriage fight is over. It is here to stay, and conservatives – whether for it, against it or just tired of hearing about it – need to coolly and dispassionately figure out just how we are going to win going forward.
This is not a judgment about its pros and cons. We’re past that. None of it matters anymore. This is about dealing with reality. Whether the fight ends with a Constitution-twisting Supreme Court ruling or after years or decades as the states adopt it one by one, it’s a done deal. And even if you aren’t yet ready to accept that it’s lost you still need to prepare for that contingency.
The question is, “What do we conservatives do next?”
Well, we don’t get depressed if we opposed it, and if we didn’t we don’t disrespect our social conservative allies over it. We get ready for the next battle, together. The amnesty fight is coming, and we need to be ready. Remember that if we don’t fight on for conservatism, President Obama and his band of liberal hypocrite buddies win.
On other issues, we conservatives are winning. We are winning on life. We are winning on guns. We are winning on Obamacare. We are winning on liberty, with the chance to expand our base into groups that right now view conservatives with suspicion by fighting government overreach. And, rightly or wrongly, a resolution on the same sex marriage issue is going to make some of that easier. We need to play the hand we’re dealt to the hilt.
It’s fair to ask why I assess this fight as lost. Understand that an objective assessment of the situation is not some sort of “surrender,” or “rolling over” or any kind of capitulation. Maybe my experience as a lawyer (and as a soldier) got me used to dealing with reality as I find it, not as I might wish it to be. You assess the situation, your resources, your opponents, and you make a cold calculation as to what’s most likely to happen next. Here’s mine.
Don’t discount the Supreme Court’s liberal wing’s willingness to impose its Ivy League values on flyover America. For the traditional marriage side, the SCOTUS cases’ best case looks like a punt. But regardless, while same sex marriage has lost in many states, it has started to win with regularity in others in the proper venues – elections and legislatures. Unelected judges imposing it create backlashes – look at California’s Proposition 8 – but the people or their representatives doing it give it legitimacy.