Jackie Gingrich Cushman
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I've come to realize that it's often not very telling if those who don't know someone well love them the most. After all, what they often see is the thin veneer of outward appearances. Dress, manners, gestures -- they see the person portrayed to the outside world. It's not that it's not important how one dresses, what one says or how one conducts oneself. Instead, it means that it's more important who people are through and through -- are they authentic, are they real, are they loved by those who know them best?

What matters are the opinions of those who know us the best -- family and longtime friends. The people who have known us for years, who have seen us in all sorts of moods, all types of situations, at our best, on different occasions and situations, and also at our worst. They know us for who we are -- in good times and in bad -- not who we want to be or hope to be or try to be.

They know the real person -- the authentic person.

If those who don't know us best love us, it's nice -- but not meaningful. In a world dominated by rock stars, entertainers and "celebrities," that are "celebrities" for being "celebrities," it's easy to misinterpret adoring fans for real loving relationships; to misunderstand a fan's adoration for a real relationship. It's the attraction to something interesting, but possibly not real, but contrived. Are some of these people as they appear? Certainly. But many are certainly not as they appear, but are contrived -- fake. Made for show, not for real.

Then who would know the difference between those who are real and authentic and those that are contrived, are made up? Those who know them best, those who have known them the longest, would know whether they were real or contrived.

Back to my original premise: It's the opinions of those who know us best that matter the most.

In the case of presidential candidate, and former Speaker of the House, Newt Gingrich, my dad, those that know him best, on Super Tuesday, voted for him by overwhelming margins. Georgia, his home state, where he served 20 years in Congress, and which had 76 delegates at stake (more than any other state that day), voted 47 percent for him. The second-place candidate, former Massachusetts Gov. Mitt Romney came in at 26 percent.

Because there were so many delegates at stake, all three top candidates campaigned in Georgia.

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Jackie Gingrich Cushman

Jackie Gingrich Cushman is a speaker, syndicated columnist, socialpreneur, and author of "The Essential American: 25 Documents and Speeches Every American Should Own," and co-author of “The 5 Principles for a Successful Life: From Our Family to Yours”.