Jackie Gingrich Cushman

I once had a boss whose primary interaction with me consisted of telling me that I was at risk of having the rest of the organization judge me as being incompetent. In retrospect, while terribly painful at the time, I learned much more about leading -- and not leading -- from this person than I did from the best boss I ever had.

What did I learn from my pseudo Parris Island management experience? People may have positions of power, but that does not make them leaders. Leading makes them leaders.

Good leaders instill in their followers the belief that they can accomplish their task. They move obstacles out of the way and ensure that people are positioned correctly based on their talents and experience.

For a man known during the campaign for his calm manner and cool delivery, President Barack Obama has recently become hot and bothered. Earlier this month on the "Today" show, Obama said he talked to experts so he'd "know whose ass to kick" regarding the Gulf oil spill. This week, he became "angry" after reading a Rolling Stone article, "The Runaway General" by Michael Hastings, about Gen. Stanley McChrystal.

McChrystal was immediately summoned to Washington to presumably be taken to the woodshed by Obama.

While this flurry of emotion might placate those who believe Obama to be too cerebral, is it the response a leader should provide?

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McChrystal, who has been married for 33 years, has seen his wife fewer than 30 days a year since 2003. He sleeps four hours a night and runs seven miles and eats one meal each day. Hastings wrote, "He speaks his mind with a candor rare for a high-ranking official. He asks for opinions, and seems genuinely interested in the response."

Unlike most generals, McChrystal has gone on dozens of nighttime raids in Iraq and Afghanistan. His soldiers are committed to him.

This week, White House deputy press secretary Bill Burton has had to defend Obama's 39 golf outings since taking office (seven since the Gulf spill), saying it "does us all good as American citizens" for Obama to play golf.

Seriously?

Arriving this week from the dystopian battlefield of Afghanistan, McChrystal's descent into Washington, D.C., must have seemed more Vanity Fair than reality.

The beltway pundits focused their wrath on the disparaging remarks made by McChrystal, more often provided by his unnamed staff, rather than on the revealed reality of the war that might not be won.


Jackie Gingrich Cushman

Jackie Gingrich Cushman is a speaker, syndicated columnist, socialpreneur, and author of "The Essential American: 25 Documents and Speeches Every American Should Own," and co-author of “The 5 Principles for a Successful Life: From Our Family to Yours”.