As my daughter, Kristin, and I recently browsed through my last book, 30 Ways in 30 Days to Save Your Family, we came across a chapter entitled, Vow To Be The Parent (Not Your Child’s Best Friend). I had to laugh to myself because Kristin—my third and youngest child—is now 22 and married, and I know my days of "active parenting" are more or less over. She is now first and foremost a friend. As long as there is breath in me I will be her mother - ready to provide counsel and advice as I am invited to share it.
But I must be invited.
This new primary role takes some adjusting to for both of us (mainly me), but I love and cherish this stage in our relationship as I have every stage of our lives.
Kristin was actively involved in helping me edit many of the chapters in 30 Ways in 30 Days to Save Your Family. Though she was still in high school at the time, she was already a gifted writer and a thoughtful young woman, and her feedback was incredibly useful. She encouraged me to redraft several sections, helped keep me motivated through long days of writing or when I was having difficulty expressing myself, and even wrote a brief introduction which I included along with my own. As she grew and improved her own writing skills throughout her college years, I more and more frequently asked for her help and perspective as I wrote my weekly columns.
Battling the culture in parenting and family matters has been the primary focus of my study, writing and speaking throughout the years. My goal has always been to encourage and assist parents to follow their God-given instincts and convictions as they raise their children, and to inspire them to become the parents that God created them to be. With my children now grown, I have the opportunity to view their lives and hear their feedback - and I consider them reliable testimonies to my and my husband’s successes and failures as parents. I also believe that the fact that they are in their twenties means they understand some of the challenges facing teens and children better than people my age do.