If you get a text from your teenager in the middle of the school day, something’s wrong.
It might be something minor, like a paper forgotten on the printer at home or gym clothes left sitting in the back hall, with a request to deliver them to the office if possible.
It might be more serious, like a warning to expect a call from a teacher about a poor grade or a behavioral misstep.
On Monday, my son texted after third hour to say the sore throat he had been feeling earlier was getting worse. Could he come home?
On Monday in a small town 30 miles east of Cleveland, students at Chardon High School sent panicked text messages to their parents filled with fear and confusion.
A shooter had opened fire in the school cafeteria, apparently targeting a table of students who were eating breakfast while waiting for the bus to their vocational training campus.
Within 36 hours, three students were dead, two were in serious condition, and a community was changed forever.
In the aftermath of Monday’s inexplicable tragedy, there are far more questions than answers. The families of Daniel Parmertor, Demetrius Hewlin, and Russell King Jr., the three students fatally shot in the melee, are likely too stunned to seek out reasons for their sons’ murders.
As if any explanation could make sense of them.
According to reports, the family of alleged shooter T.J. Lane is equally confused. In a statement released on family members’ behalf, they are said to be grieving along with the victims’ families and the entire community over a calamity they never anticipated, never saw coming.
Disconcertingly, though, the media on Monday was quick to label T.J. a “bullied outcast,” as if framing the narrative for a story that would suppose the shooter to have been pushed to the edge of his emotional limits by heartless and insensitive peers.
After all, in a nation where, according to a Josephson Institute of Ethics survey of 43,000 teenagers, fully half of all teens admit they have bullied someone in the past and 47 percent report they have been the victim of bullying, it’s likely that a history of bullying could have played a role in the emotional state of the perpetrator in this case.
Unless it didn’t.
Students interviewed for media reports in the aftermath of the incident indicated T.J. was quiet and may have been considered an “outcast” but was not bullied. One student recalled reaching out to T.J. by sitting next to him on the bus, because he seemed lonely. An attorney for his family said the young man kept to himself but had friends and was never in any trouble the family knew about.