Wow: Woman Writes Letter To Doctor After He Told Her To Abort Her Baby With Down Syndrome

Christine Rousselle
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Posted: Jun 09, 2016 9:00 AM
Wow: Woman Writes Letter To Doctor After He Told Her To Abort Her Baby With Down Syndrome

Source: http://parkermyles.com/2016/06/07/girl-with-down-syndrome-posts-letter-to-doctor-who-wanted-parents-to-abort-her/

A letter a woman wrote to her prenatal specialist after telling her to abort her unborn daughter with Down syndrome has gone viral. Courtney Baker of Sanford, Florida, is the mother of Rhyan,  Evynn, and Emersyn. Emersyn has Down syndrome and was diagnosed prior to her birth. According to Baker, her doctor repeatedly encouraged her to terminate her pregnancy, even after she initially refused the suggestion. 

Now that Emersyn is over a year old, Baker thought it was time to write her former doctor and let him know about how misinformed he was about her child. Baker hopes that her letter will help change the doctor's mind about how he treats his patients with prenatal diagnoses.

The full text of the letter:

Dear Doctor,

A friend recently told me of when her prenatal specialist would see her child during her sonograms, he would comment, “He’s perfect.” Once her son was born with Down syndrome, she visited that same doctor. He looked at her little boy and said, “I told you. He’s perfect.”

Her story tore me apart. While I was so grateful for my friend’s experience, it filled me with such sorrow because of what I should have had. I wish you would have been that doctor.

I came to you during the most difficult time in my life. I was terrified, anxious and in complete despair. I didn’t know the truth yet about my baby, and that’s what I desperately needed from you. But instead of support and encouragement, you suggested we terminate our child. I told you her name, and you asked us again if we understood how low our quality of life would be with a child with Down syndrome. You suggested we reconsider our decision to continue the pregnancy.

From that first visit, we dreaded our appointments. The most difficult time in my life was made nearly unbearable because you never told me the truth. My child was perfect.

I’m not angry. I’m not bitter. I’m really just sad. I’m sad the tiny beating hearts you see every day don’t fill you with a perpetual awe. I’m sad the intricate details and the miracle of those sweet little fingers and toes, lungs and eyes and ears don’t always give you pause. I’m sad you were so very wrong to say a baby with Down syndrome would decrease our quality of life. And I’m heartbroken you might have said that to a mommy even today. But I’m mostly sad you’ll never have the privilege of knowing my daughter, Emersyn.

Because, you see, Emersyn has not only added to our quality of life, she’s touched the hearts of thousands. She’s given us a purpose and a joy that is impossible to express. She’s given us bigger smiles, more laughter and sweeter kisses than we’ve ever known. She’s opened our eyes to true beauty and pure love.

So my prayer is that no other mommy will have to go through what I did. My prayer is that you, too, will now see true beauty and pure love with every sonogram.

And my prayer is when you see that next baby with Down syndrome lovingly tucked in her mother’s womb, you will look at that mommy and see me then tell her the truth: “Your child is perfect.”

What a beautiful story.

Parents of special needs babies need encouragement and to be lifted up, not to be constantly reminded about how difficult their lives are going to be. Life is always precious.