Limbaugh, Dr. Laura and love

Posted: Mar 03, 2004 12:00 AM

So now I know the power of Rush Limbaugh. I don't just know about it ? I mean I have actually felt it.

Two weeks ago, as I was diligently working in my office at the Heritage Foundation, the reception area outside my door was suddenly a flurry of hyper activity and excitement. Several folks were trying to cram through my doorway at once, all chattering something about Rush Limbaugh. Adding to the delightful madness was the ringing of my phone and the simultaneous "dinging" of incoming e-mail.

What in the world was going on?

One breathless young employee managed to break through the noise with the astounding declaration: "Rush just said he's going to talk about your column after the commercial break!"

A mad dash to the nearest radio ensued, and to my surprise, Rush read my entire column about Dr. Laura's wonderful new book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands," on the air.

The column was meant to inspire women to stop the petty whining in which so many American wives have become engaged since feminism raised its ugly head several decades ago ? and, instead, to treat their husbands with a little kindness, appreciation and respect.

Dr. Laura's point is that if a wife will simply employ the Golden Rule with the man to whom she has pledged her life, her husband will respond with the affection she craves. The basic emotional need of a woman ? to be deeply loved ? and the basic emotional need of a man ? to be truly respected ? are facts of life, that when ignored by married couples, invariably lead to untold marital misery and even divorce.

In Rush's clever way, he allowed me to speak to the wives who might be listening by his reading of my column. But, wise man that he is, instead of then instructing women himself, he lobbed a few missiles at any husbands tuned in that day.

Apparently, Rush thinks a lot of men are wimps. He takes issue with husbands who complain their wives are insensitive, bossy or thoughtless. And, certainly, he is right ? no woman wants to be married to a wimp.

But Rush made a critical error when he advised husbands, "If you want to feel like her hero, feel like a hero. Don't give anybody else the power to determine how you feel about yourself."

There's just one itsy-bitsy problem with that advice.

You don't get to be a hero just because you feel like one. You have to do something in order to be a hero.

Dr. Laura brilliantly explains in her book that most any decent husband will automatically become a Knight in Shining Armor if his wife stops acting like Medusa. After all, what man wants to win the heart of a serpent?

Dr. Laura explains that when women reject the "me first" mantra of feminism and become more selfless, something magic happens: Decent men respond in kind.

I've long been a Rush fan. After all, it was Rush Limbaugh that revolutionized talk radio and used it as a tool to sidestep the liberal mass media and reach out directly to the people in their homes, cars and places of business with a message that grabbed their hearts, engaged their brains and touched their souls.

I've studied the phenomenon that is Rush Limbaugh. I know that some 12 million people hear him every week. I know that in a single moment, he is able to inspire his loyal listeners to light up the switchboards in Washington, D.C., and make their voices heard. I know that he is talk radio's version of a rock star.

Rush Limbaugh is a true American hero ? and not just because he feels like one. Rush ranks right up there with Superman because, armed only with a microphone and his intellect, he daily punches the lights out of lightweight liberals and their deadly orthodoxy.

But Rush ain't no marriage counselor.

So, husbands and wives of America, look to Rush to help you save your country ? but look to Dr. Laura to help you save your love.

Kisses, Rush!