So Many Men, So Little Hair

You are hilarious!!

whose office is directly across the street from e-Harmony's HQ in Pasadena, I resent the bald quote. Actually, I enjoyed your essay. I never used that service but I used a couple of others and got lots and lots of dates. On the positive side, I was surprised to find out there were so many very attractive women my age out there. But on the negative side, I really don't think they know what they want unless it's Mr. Moneybags or just lots of free dinners. There is just something odd about online dating to begin with. It is very superficial and people lie about themselves shamelessly.

I got over 50 dates the year I subscribed and most were a lot of fun but it got expensive. Every time I wonder what is wrong with me, I go back to the websites and see that most of them are still there looking, some of them at both places. I suspect that Mr. Right is just not out there for these women. And I don't want to here about "instant chemistry" either. It takes work to build a relationship.

Unlike you, I didn't have a single embarrassing date to write about (I don't know if the women would say the same thing about me LOL) except for the one who claimed to be 58 but didn't look more than 35 and I don't mean in the LA surgical way either. Could be. Some women get better with age.

This was a good post. Something caught my eye:

"When given the question, name 5 things you can't live without...Why do so many men list, food, air and water as choices?"

It might be because men are simple creatures. If you find matches listing unusual things, then you might have a high-maintenance metrosexual as the match.

It is good to be picky about the important things. After all, if you're looking for a possible spouse, you are going to be sharing everything with this person. So, if you need something in a partner, don't ever compromise. Better to be unmarried than married to the wrong person.

For what it is worth, men also have frustrations when looking for a wife. Women who haven't taken care of themselves, or have run up huge debts expecting to be rescued, or who try to change who he is... you get the picture. Here's what I wrote on this subject the other day:
http://walrus.townhall.com/g/871657f4-5cc8-4456-b208-124b1c 47bb2a

I think it is important to understand that there are core values that should never be compromised or sacrificed for "the good of the relationship". My list if very short but I know what it is. Everything else is just a matter of getting used to. My list of what I'm looking for in a woman isn't long either but I am very willing to change a lot of things in my life for the right one. But not if I have to sacrifice the things that make my life worth living. Generally, I think guys get a bad rap in general about not wanting to commit. Most women I know have serious "control" issues.

You might do better in finding a partner on Townhall....all the communication that goes on here. It's a good way to get to know people, IMO.

I also suspect Phil is actually Bob from Schenectady--whereever that is.

I'm not sure that I wasn't just insulted since I have no idea what that means. On the other hand, we all know the Pepperhawk story.

..."combover." He brushes his hair from his back up and over his head.

I use that spray stuff that makes you look like you have a full head of hair. Comb overs are so phony. Makes you look like a weirdo.

I had a similarly entertaining (and simultaneously frightening) experience during my one-month trial of Yahoo Personals. That was my first and only attempt at internet dating. E-Harmony sounds interesting due to the controlled communication. I certainly would NOT recomment the free-for-all that is Yahoo (or similar dating sites).

Anyway, best of luck. ShiningCity may have a point about having better luck on Townhall. Although I don't know how many single male participants there are in my age bracket, I've certainly seen far more intelligence and character in the posts here than other places I've ventured on the internet. Maybe there should be Townhall singles? lol