Survey on Gender Etiquette

I thought everyone has....I believe it to be more than common.


Voting on the way to the hospital! Impressive!

hey, you made it first, glad to see you're still on top of the blogs. :)

So WHICH side is the male side?

...Myself:

Laying on My back in the bed, then it would be the left (the only time I'm ever on the "left" of anything...or should I say anyone?) side for two reasons, it is the control side (like driving a car) and it's more comfortable for Southpaws, like Me.

the male side is the side closest to the bedroom door. Dunno why she likes it that way.

Voting while on the way to the ER...YOU DA WO-MAN!

It's such a man thing, Craw!
My husband is the same. His is the left side of the bed and mine is the right. He won't let me change the bedroom around now, because his side would be furthest away from the bathroom and the door!!

and sleep on the side closest to the door but that would have been the right side (lying on one's back). My wife insisted that women get the right side (it is closest to the bathroom). Whatever. Just keep it down, I'm trying to sleep...

I hope you're okay.


Okay, the bed. Side determined when laying on my back on the bed. When I was married -- both times -- I was on the left.

When I moved into this house 9 years ago, I switched to the right. But that was really due to the room layout.

I will weigh in, at the risk of sounding like a crazed feminazi.

The Female side of the bed is whichever side she chooses. I have found this works for me. And for the others in my home.

And the Male side is the side that the male assumes after The female chooses hers. This is the only self-respecting, gentlemanly way to be.

This arrangement makes everyone happy. It sometimes requires changing sides if the Female becomes temporarily unhappy on her side or simply desires a change.

Late mornings after she's gotten up and is making breakfast. Then I take the diagonal side with all 7 pillows.

I had a heart problem too, and my father passed away last year of a stroke.

You need to visit the website for the Vitamin C foundation. It's at vitamincfoundation.org. The solution is simple, you can cure your cardiovascular disease with megadoses of Vitamin C and lysine. Please look deeply into this as your doctor will poo -poo the very idea that a simple vitamin and amino acid combination will help you.

I had been diagnosed as a candidate for sudden cardiac death 12 years ago, and they were about to put a defibrillator in my chest at the age of 38.

Take care.

I'm with Crawfish, the male side is closest to the door. The man keeps himself between any intruder and his wife.

I have a new blog posting.

erm ... I sleep alone.

ShiningCity is closest to the truth. I get the right side, I didn't choose it, 38 years ago my wife took the left side....end of story.

One exception. When we travel I get the side closest to the door.

A word of caution about vitamins. I had my first MI 17 years ago. My cardiologist put me on massive doses of Vitamin E, and later C to balance the E. 3 MIs and 1 AICD later my new cardiologist took me off them. No heart events since then.

I realize that this is anecdotal but I wouldn't engage in any remediation that didn't have a ten year study completed. Just my two cents.

By the way, new post at my place. Stop if you can.

I generously allow the woman to take the foot of the bed. It allows her easier access for removing and replacing my slippers.

Anything I can do to make life easier for the lil woman.

New Posting Available!

It cracks me up...all this putting of the male between her and the door for protection. We all know it's because you guys get up all night long and pee 20 times.

Kilroy....a man after my own heart. That's exactly the sort of reasoning I allow for the side closest to the door. It's less steps to the couch. (wink)

a) She chooses her side first, usually.
b) She likes me being closer to the door to deal with intruders....mostly our daughters!
c) In some places we've been, I've been closest to the bathroom, but further in the rest...about half n half. Further in the house we actually own.
d) In one house, I started on the door side, moved to the other side when the streetlight was bugging her on the window side, then switched back to the door side about a year later when she got a blackout curtain for the window.

I just posted my new essay "Bread and Circuses" at the Island. Come on by when you get the chance.

I sincerely hope you're feeling all right. Sounds like the writer's strike is coming to an end, so I'm hoping your hubby will soon be back in action, even if the strike ending means that the studios rejected my generous offer to write for them at half the price.

Yes, it was a sad, sad Super Tuesday. Swing by my blog to see some classic McCain stupidity. Hrm... McCain... "of Cain"? Biblical prophecy anyone? The world is supposed to end in 2012, right? *Twilight Zone Theme*

As for the bed thing, I think it's determined by what side you're accustomed to sleeping on and what your favored snuggle positions are. If you like to spoon for a while, you're not going to then crawl over your spouse to sleep on the other side of the bed.

So I guess there's no hard, fast rule on where men and women sleep. Coincidentally, my husband usually is on the side by the door (he MUST sleep on the right side!) and when I've been preggy, I've usually had the side closest to the bathroom, as appropriate. Kilroy, you slay me! I'd love to see ya rile up some feminazis! Being comfortable with my womanhood, I can chuckle at jokes like that. And Shining City, good comeback to Kilroy!

Anyway, I've got to visit your blogs, I've just had some silly health setbacks, went to the emergency room again last week when my cardiologist never called me back! I'll make it, I think, but it was bad again for a while.

Relic, I should check out your vitamin thing. And apparently heart problems are harder to detect in women than in men, for some reason.

And YAY, the strike is over, but it might be March when my husband can get back to work. But at least he's here with me for Valentine's Day!

I hope everything is good with you and the family, now that the strike is over.

One [don't take this wrong] positive thing that came out of the strike [for me] is my wife gave me the entire DVD set of Stargate SG-1, 10 seasons. I figured it would take some time to see it all but we just finished the last one last night. We liked it and had never seen it before.

Can't wait till this election season is over.

How are you doing? You are right about the difficulty of detection for women. I have never had a silent heart attack. I definitely know when it is happening.

I have a new post, come by if you can.

...but I want to add my best wishes for your cardiologist to have the wisdom to know how to treat you medically, and for Mr. Squiddy to know how to give you the TLC you need, and for you to recover quickly. Sanity demands it.

Re: the gender of bedsides, it reminds me of a joke. Just ask each side which gender it is. If he answers, the male sleeps there; if she answers, then the female sleeps there.

OK, so maybe not so funny. Crawfish and Shining City hit it for my better half. I sleep at the drop of a hat anywhere I need to, therefore, I let the Mrs. choose her side. Her choice has been based on the Crawfish Criteria. When our children were nursing, this had the added benefit (for her; but I was half asleep anyway) that I could go get them for her, and return them to their beds when they were done, with minimal disturbance for my wife.

Berkeley is still fighting.

Move America Forward is asking for help spreading their new ad on the Internet. Posted on my site, stop if you get a chance.

the man is to sleep on the door side of the bed in order to protect the wife...

We sleep like that, but mostly its because the bathroom is closer to her side...

Glad you are OK. Try not to let this election crap stress you out too much. Your kids need you around for more years than any of these politicians will be known.

Uh, I didn't know there was a male or female side.

In my first marriage I slept on the left side. In my new marriage I sleep on the right side.

Never seemed to make a diff to me.

I do know when I slept by myself while single I took up the whole bed spread triangular. It's hard to share a bed for me anyway. I'm one of those people who like to roll all over the place. Poor Goshawk.

Haven't heard from you, hope all is Okay!