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Beyond the Supreme Court: A Guide to Settling Gay Marriage

wtmoore1 Wrote: Dec 14, 2012 12:03 PM
It's interesting to me how the author separates and describes the benefits incident to marriage in the column above. Especially with respect to the legal rights being less important than a marriage recognized by family and God. It struck me that the description given asks us to accept the claim that once your family and God recognize your marriage, the legalities of such have little import. Not that I agree with that premise, but even taking it as true, those in same-sex relationships are often ostracized by their families and the religious community of which they were formally a part. So often, same-sex marriage is done SOLELY for the third benefit listed above. Minimizing the importance of legal rights in this context misses the mark.
Tinsldr2 Wrote: Dec 14, 2012 12:14 PM
Even those same sex couples not ostracized are denied the benefits other married couples get.

This is why DOMA will be ruled unconstitutional.

A legally married same sex couple has the exact same marriage license as a heterosexual couple.

I am married for 25 years to my wife. True we did not get married for the benefits, yet every year I claim married filling jointly, my spouse gets military benefits I earned, she gets immigration status from our marriage etc....

It is not the MOST important part but it is AN IMPORTANT part of our life together.

wtmoore1 Wrote: Dec 14, 2012 12:37 PM
Tinsldr,

I'm not saying that all same-sex couples are ostracized by their families, or that your connection with your family in some way impacts the approval or denial of benefits for same-sex couples. What I'm saying is simply that when the author above separated out the three categories of benefits incident to marriage, he did so in the context of someone who hasn't already been ostracized by their family and religious community. I was just trying to point out that the reality for many same-sex couples is that the social and religious benefits of marriage often take a back seat to the legal rights because many families and religious communities are unwilling to extend support.

As the U.S. Supreme Court prepares to tackle two gay marriage issues, those of us looking for some sweeping overall conclusions on the issue should temper our expectations.

The cases to be examined by the high court involve some specifics-- the constitutionality of the Defense of Marriage Act, and the range of benefits the federal government should grant in states choosing to recognize gay unions.

Both will necessarily involve some examination of what role the federal government should play in matters of gay marriage, but neither is likely to settle the biggest questions:

What is the proper...