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New Relationship: When Should You Have the Financial Conversation?

wtf2 Wrote: Sep 09, 2012 11:06 AM
She sounds like a user, sorry. This shouldn't be some big thing that you have to have a conversation about.
Wumingren Wrote: Sep 09, 2012 12:11 PM
Not necessarily. The writer did not indicate any such behavior from this woman. He only said he pays for all their entertainment. If he had said she keeps asking for expensive clothes, jewelry, and luxury items, then you might have a valid point. Also, most men start out wanting to impress a woman, often by spending money to make up for perceived or actual character flaws, so he's not totally blameless for the direction his relationship has gone so far. If he has lived his life as a "chick magnet" then he shouldn't be surprised if he attracts the wrong element.

Dear Carrie: I'm 30 years old and have been dating a terrific girl for almost a year. I think she's the one, and we get along great with just one snag: money. We're both new in our careers, but I make a lot more than she does. As a result, I've been paying for everything we do together: dinners out, weekend trips, etc. I love treating her, but I'm worried because I know I need to be saving for my emergency fund, retirement, etc. Any suggestions for how I can turn this around without upsetting my girlfriend? --A Reader

Dear Reader: With...