What is so "painfully obvious" to you and I has been turned upside down by the adherence to political correctness by a large portion of our population. The detachment from reality via sophisticated media, lack of serious consequences for foolish behavior, and an ever larger pool of like-minded fools, has conditioned them in a path of least resistance to what used to be a normative character development process of social, moral and conscience based pressure. It produced a normative aggregate of a society, though not a perfect one by any means, that had a standard of "progress" practical enough to produce the most libertarian, prosperous and generous society the world has EVER seen. It also produced the seeds of its self destruction, as we now see. The gardening out of those will be difficult at this point.