Do you expect conservatives to CONSTANTLY discuss the problems in the black community? Heck, I'm pleasantly surprised to see black people occasionally discussing problems in the black community. Many black people seem convinced there is nothing wrong whatsoever in the black community, and if there is, it's only because of the mean old white man.
And you write "Conservatives have not made the effort as they should in being a part of the discussion." Well gosh, whenever we do, we are immediately labeled as incorrigible racists. If you find uncomfortable truths "demeaning", that is your problem.
When liberals and some minorities say they want to have a "discussion" on race, what they really mean is that they want white people to sit down, shut up, and get lectured on how white people are the cause of all evil and sorrow on this planet. Sad.