As anyone in my field will telling you, you ARE, in fact, believing only what you want to hear. That is why researcher gather demographic data about respondent first and then marry up what they say/believe with that data and are able to quantify/qualify what these people think in relation to who they are.
Your argument that a cogent conservative message will secure more electoral victories is completely incongruent with the fact that there are not enough conservative leaning voters in the country to make you understandable hope a reality. By the way, the same is true for progressive liberals.
But keep trying, at some point you will give up and accept the world as it really is and not as you'd like it. (This is what all my psychologist friends tell me and I believe they are more scientifically correct about the human species than you or I.)