I have read the Qur'an and the Hadith, the radicals use bits and pieces of it to justify their actions. Muslim men are supposed to respect and protect women, but they do not and treat them usually worse than slaves. What I found interesting is that the man can demand sex from his wife but has to respect her right to say NO. She on the other hand can ask for sex and he cannot say no to her request.
Now I had a friend that learned to read, write, and speak Arabic just so he could argue the Qur'an and shock the heck out of them!