Real freedom means doing whatever one wants unless it directly harms or directly threatens harm to others. Liberty means using violence and threats only to repel violence and threats. With gay marriage, consider Jefferson's test: does it break your arm or pick your pocket? It certainly does not break your arm. And it only breaks your pocket because it extends to gays certain redistributive priveleges that NOBODY should have. The social programs that will become available to married gays shouldn't exist in the first place. The justifiable complaint is not with gay marriage, but with confiscatory taxation and redistribution.