What you say is true, regarding Jesus being the final arbiter in determining who is hell worthy. And it is true (or at least, "true-ISH") that feeling a compulsion is not a guarantee one is hell bound. But how one acts on one's compulsions makes a big difference and it is that which will determine one's final destination, as how one acts determines whether or not one's faith is true. Grace is not a free pass to live as one chooses. Nothing in Scripture justifies or allows for homosexual behavior.