Okay, educate me. I was married in my Church. The Church recognized the marriage, with documents signed by Church officials, and the only way that marriage can be dissolved in the eyes of the Church is by the Church. At the same time, the State of New York recognized that civil union, with different documents, and (presumably) the federal government acknowledged that civil union, allowing us among other things to file federal income taxes as married filing jointly. Why does the sex of my spouse matter? If we are the same sex, or opposite sex, our Church and the state recognized the union. How does our sex alter anybody else's marriage or union?