Gays and other minorities need to recognize some things:
We are no longer a racist country - the fact of Obama's election proves that
We are no longer a sexist country - Condoleeza Rice as Sec. of State proves that.
We are no longer a homophobic country - that gays are better educated, more affluent proves that.
The only "victims" of intolerance and bigotry in 21st century America are evangelical Christians, as demonstrated in this Starnes' column.