If your gynecologist gives you an extremely unorthodox pelvic exam- is that marriage? Or if you are raped- is that marriage? Is not marriage the blending of two lives in love? If my husband has ED to the point that attempting intimacy is like playing pool with a rope (sorry), are we no longer married? Does miscegenation make a marriage not a marriage? (Race mixing. I am so glad no one knows what that word means anymore.) It did once. Loving v Virginia struck the laws of 16 states. Turns out that tail was indeed a leg, and so is this one.
I have been married 40 years. I hold it sacred. Let gay folk marry, same as me.