Auspex, it appears that you suffer from a genetic flaw that infects you with illusions of industriousness, ambition, self-sacrifice, self-denial, and so on. Fortunately, we are evolving onward and upward from that primitive state, and with the help of the state run schools, our children are learning that everything is free to those who cry loudly enough.
But I sympathize with you. I can remember listening to a presidential inauguration speech 53 years agi from an insensitive, heartless Neanderthal who actually said "Ask not what your country can do for you, but ask what you can do for your country." Thank goodness we now repudiate that repugnance and have become humane and compassionate to those who lack the will to work.