Men hold all the cards? Laughable. When I was on the dating scene, I was continuously passed over for guys who didn't treat women well, didn't have as good a job as I did, took no responsibility for the pregnancies created. I was consistently told "I should have picked a nice guy like you", and "if I wasn't involved I would be so after you!", etc. Took me until my late 30s to find my gorgeous, giving, smart, awesome wife. Now my teen son is finding the same difficulties.
WOMEN hold all the cards. They put off the good guys, because they want a "bad boy", which to them is excitement. THEY decide when the sex happens and where the relationship goes. They decide on abortions and child support.