Women, and the men they have sex with, can and do have damaged reproductive cells from exposure to poisons in the environment that they have no control over.; I am not defending consumption of alcohol or weed, or taking of any type of drug .
Damaged egg and sperm can, and do, result in defective children whose brains don't function right and are as a result sometimes disposed to horrible, unnatural behaviours as well as outright criminality.
"Taking responsibility" - I'm all for it. But old fashioned, traditional, Christian, conservative wisdom says, "Stuff happens". The best parents sometimes have awful children.
You know as well as I do that we can't control every thing our children experience no matter how on the ball we are!