We lost our daughter last year. More than anything, after the initial shock when I DID blame Him, I realized that the awful things that happen in this miserable, broken world, are our OWN fault. WE are the ones who demanded independence and to "be as gods", and to know good AND evil. Well here it is, and we can blame God, or the devil, but the truth is, it IS what we demanded. No creatures on the planet are capable of the evil we visit on ourselves.
NO ONE is thrown into hell or dragged into heaven; WE make the choices that decide our fate.