RE: "Lincoln was our first dictator."
If Lincoln was a dictator, he had a lot of help, namely the governors of the northern states. When Lincoln "asked" (not ordered) the governors to send troops, they willingly did so. They could have just as easily refused. Even if Lincoln had "ordered" them to send troops, they could have refused because Lincoln had no way of enforcing such an order. Therefore, portraying him as some sort of despotic dictator doesn't comport with the facts.