We go through this every damn time we lose and nothing ever changes. This country is so sharply and deeply divided, perhaps irretrievably so, that there is no hope of reconciliation. Read Walter Williams' column from April 2010 (you can find it in the archives here or on his web site) where argues persuasively for a "divorce", likening our situation to a marraige that is broken beyond repair. Why live under oppression and bondage or under the threat of domestic violence (i.e. civil war) when we can simply separate and go our own ways?
We will never convince liberals/socialists of the virtues of conservatism, and they will certainly not convince us of the "benefits" of socialism. So why not just part peacably?