Lifestyle choices; this is your take home message regarding the folks you help? Dig deeper and you may appreciate what it is you do on a more profound level. Your indicators of what's wrong with the people you help are fairly shallow (cell phones and tattoos?) and not really indicative of anything - for many poor, money is ephemeral (here today, gone tomorrow) so what? should they be investing it - perhaps but how so?. Yet you recognize a systemic issue here (children raising children). Poverty is a complex issue; transcends lifestyle choices. You do good work, no doubt. You may learn more if you try.