Tuttletacoma, Did you miss the part where I said we're both Christians? You don't appear to be one. Otherwise you wouldn't make the disparaging comments about Sam Allen and me. I am not obsessed with sex. I'm just throwing out some encouraging words out there to anyone who might not think that terrific monogamous relationship is possible. We are church-attending Christians and God has given us two great boys. We have been blessed. I wish the same for you. The Bible talks a lot about sinful sex and healthy necessary sex within marriage. Read all about it. And don't miss the Gospel while you're at it (I Cor 15: 1-4) I'll pray for you.