There is no real "love," in these relationships, for love respects roles. And if virtuous roles cease to exist, there is nothing left to honor. There is only lust. A lust which is condemned for valid reasons over and over again.
However, once one has crossed the line into lust being confused for love, the arrogant assumption that one should have the right to lust after anyone they please is merely characteristic of being ruled by lust in the first place. It arrogantly assumes itself entitled to anything that arouses it.