Progressive utopians DO hate stay at home mothers. The firmly believe that the government, society or "a village" are better at raising children than the family. Children should be raised by "experts" and left to their families as little as possible. Children need to be "socialized" and made part of the group. Families interfere with that. Two essential books on this are Mark Steins Ameritopia and Jonah Goldbergs Liberal Fascism. You need to know what your up against.