Family! That is what should make the decision. If a couple wants to get married and have a family, then they should plan on "raising" that family. Children require caring for by loving and considerate parents, not left to survive the best way they can, on their own. It is usually the woman's lot to stay at home and care for the children she has borne, and that is the way it has been for centuries. In our present culture, the woman is often better educated and has a better job than the man. In some cases where this is true, she returns to work after the child is born, and the husband stays at home. Either way the children have a loving parent around all the time, to guide and protect them.