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Why a Good Person Can Vote Against Same-Sex Marriage

Troglodite Wrote: Oct 30, 2012 12:18 PM
When people suggest that the government should get out of the marriage business, it seems to me that they are really trying to peddle the idea that the government should rubber-stamp any "relationship" which the parties want to call a marriage. Of course, if it did that, while leaving on the books all the other legislation that references marriage, any individual would be subject to civil or even criminal penalties for discriminating against, or perhaps just hurting the feelings of, any two (or more) persons who called themselves husband and wife. In short, the entire argument about getting the government out of the marriage business is either ill-considered or intentionally deceptive.

Next week voters in Maine, Maryland and Washington will vote on whether to redefine marriage to include same-sex couples.

Given that there are good people on both sides of this issue, how are we to explain their opposing views?

The primary explanation is this: Proponents and opponents ask two different questions.

Proponents of same-sex marriage ask: Is keeping the definition of marriage as man-woman fair to gays? Opponents of same-sex marriage ask: Is same-sex marriage good for society?

Few on either side honestly address the question of the other side. Opponents of same-sex marriage rarely acknowledge...