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Let's Talk About Sex, Responsibly

Tired Mom Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 8:45 AM
The "sex is for grown-ups" meme is a dangerous one, because the minute kids start to individuate and separate from their parents as early teens, they think they are grown up. I tell my kids "sex is for married people." Because my kids know my husband and I expect them to get through college before they marry, the translation is clear - no sex until adulthood. I have one in college, one in high school and one in middle school, and so far, this approach has worked.
rwright Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 11:24 PM
Keep hoping!! You might be lucky.
Basset Hound Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 8:21 PM
Good for you. I don't give a damn about what the trolls say, I think you're teaching your children valuable skills that will serve them well. They will know how to delay short term satisfaction for long term rewards.
jkarov Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 10:58 AM
Dear Tired Mom, yes being a parent is hard work, I can sympathize that you are tired!

Expecting your children to go through all their teens and even college and wait til marriage to
be sexually active is just unrealistic in most Western cultures.

Why not give teens all the information there is, and how to prevent pregnancy with contraceptions?
Most imporantly is to teach them safe sex informatino to protect them?

You can preach to the choir all day and all night, but once they leave your house, the biology of sex is too powerful to expect them to not use it.
Basset Hound Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 8:27 PM
Why not teach them to stand up for themselves and say "this is MY body...these are MY dreams...this is MY life. First you must get to know me, demonstrate to my satisfaction that you are a person of character AND that you're capable of earning a living. Next you have to convince me that you want to be a part of my life (and me to be a part of yours) until death parts us. THEN we'll talk about having sex. If these conditions are unacceptable to you, there's the door".

That's what "Tired Mom" is trying to do, despite being held up for ridicule by those who THINK they're so much smarter than she is.

I say YOU GO GIRLFRIEND. And I might add, my husband and I are raising our daughter that way as well.
DagNabbit Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 10:01 AM
Your kid in college has probably had sex. Sorry to break it to you. But if your rule is "no sex before marriage", your kid is lying to you. Rightfully so, too, because he/she is an adult and your rule doesn't apply to them.
natch Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 10:03 AM
Well, I'm glad you told her. I didn't have the heart to.
JPK2 Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 11:35 AM
Yes, and there are plenty of Obama Goodies to support them - free contracpetion, subsidized abortions, WIC, SNAP cards, subsidized student loand, subsidized heating and utility assistance, Obama Phones, subsidized housing and mortgage assistance, and outright cash payouts.

Perhaps the girl wouldn't be so willing to "put-out" if the federal government wouldn't be there to "take care of her problem". In the old days the girl and boy would be forced to marry (usually via a shotgun), or the girl would be forced to give up the child for adoption; or the girl would keep the child and live with her parents. But no man would ever consider marrying a ready made family. For the girl, having sex was not something entered into lightly.
ckohlbeck Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 2:16 PM
It worked for me. I got married at 25 and was a virgin. I served in the Armed Forces also. But I did go to a Catholic elementary school where my sex education occurred. It was a matter between God and myself. My parents never mentioned sex in our whole lives.We saw what happened when people had sex too early. WE need more faith and less "it's bound to happen." No, it isn't. My wife and I had a happy marriage for 55 years. FinanceManager
Basset Hound Wrote: Dec 01, 2012 4:05 PM
Thanks to the Sexual Revolution (and women's supposed "empowerment") men hold all the cards. A woman feels pressured to "put out" in hopes that a guy is interested enough to call her again because if she doesn't, he easily finds someone who will.

Have you heard about the holiday gift some American girls could be getting? Emergency contraception!

During Thanksgiving week the American Academy of Pediatrics announced their recommendation that "morning- after" prescriptions be issued to adolescent girls in advance of need, as a matter of routine.

"There's no good reason" to disagree with the recommendation, the San Francisco Chronicle asserts. But there are actually plenty of them.

Besides being deeply insulting to the dignity of adolescents, this approach exposes the reality that when we talk about sex, we all too often put good health and sense aside. "Women's health" routinely assumes promiscuity, whatever the age, despite...