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Grow up: Life Has Trade-offs

sgordon916 Wrote: Jun 26, 2012 8:38 AM
Every ones situation is different, you have to go where God leads you. I had a very successful job as a C level executive at a company that was very family friendly. Once when my kids were like 7 and 10, i asked them if they would like me to be home more. The exclaimed "NO we like our life the wayit is". Look to God for amswers not others.
MichiganWife85 Wrote: Jun 26, 2012 10:53 PM
"Once when my kids were like 7 and 10, i asked them if they would like me to be home more. The exclaimed "NO we like our life the way it is".

Um you shouldn't "ask" your kids what YOU should do. You should ALWAYS do the right thing BY THEM. If you ask them they're going to give you the answer that favors them most but might not necessarily be the best for them or your family.

The reality is the best decision for your children is to not work and concentrate on them. At least until they start school or leave the nest.
Luc3 Wrote: Jun 26, 2012 10:19 AM
If you asked them if they wanted lean fish and a baked potato or a banana split for supper guess what they would have chosen?
MG formerly minnesotagrandma Wrote: Jun 26, 2012 8:52 AM
Yes, but it sure would be easier if the "career" women would not try to make the women who follow God to stay HOME feel that they are less than "real" women. Believe me I have been THERE.Since Idid not CHOOSE college and a career I must not be as smart as them and not deserving of respect. What Charon is trying to say, I think, is that REAL choice for women means respect for ALL choices. Also, that CHOICES will have to be made. Women have the same 24 hours men do. It's what they choose to do in those 24. Good for you for making the choice that was right for you and your family. You, however, did not have to put up with the "so what do YOU do?" Knowing you would get "the look" for stay at home mom.
binc Wrote: Jun 26, 2012 9:19 AM
minnesotagranda, I did the high pay stress corporate stint, I did the college stint, the stay at home Mom stint, the work from home stint and now the own business stint and all I can say, is the stay at home Mom stint was by far the most demanding both physically and emotionally, the most rewarding and the stint that taught me more by far than any of my other stints. Stay at home Moms simply need to develop an even more scathing return look when confronted by "the look" that you mention. Works like a charm.
MG formerly minnesotagrandma Wrote: Jun 26, 2012 10:28 AM
Sound like you have done it ALL. Good for you. Experience is the best teacher and you have all of it! I agree with your assessment of the stay at home mom.Things are a bit easier now, I think. My daughter and SIL have chosen for her to stay home for now. She has a great circle of stay at home mom friends and even some working moms who don't put her down. The pedulum is swinging back. She has just gone back college part time to add some certification to her Masters but she has arranged swapping kid time with family member. Win win! Kids get to play with cousins more often and no stranger daycare. I had "the look" when I had to straighten out the daughter or the husband. :)
binc Wrote: Jun 26, 2012 10:56 AM
We each have to follow our own hearts. I never really had a grand plan but when things presented themselves that looked good, I went with it and generally, not always of course, had a good time. For others that may not work but putting them down for it is childish. I suspect that you and I are around the same age so God willing, you have many years to follow any dream you want. Don't ever let women that have chosen a different path make you think less of yourself. Women far too often allow jealousy in their treatment of other women. That's one thing that I think men have over us. There, I said it and I'm sure feminists would have a field day with that and, tell the truth, I couldn't care less if they do or not.
Tish6 Wrote: Jun 26, 2012 12:45 PM
No I had to put up with the...don't you feel bad for wasting your life not staying home with your kids? You should be homeschooling them instead of putting them in private or public school. Your husband should provide better so you can stay at home (I'm the one with the degrees so I work. My husband stays home and maintains a part time job in the evenings). Your son has developmental delays, what kind of mommy are you by not staying at home. The best one was my husband's ex telling me that the career I have (I am an accountant in a CPA office) is "no job for a mommy". So both sides get it. Quite frankly, I never to that look you were talking about when I was a SAHM..
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