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Infertility and Selective Abortion: Steering a Course Between Scylla and Charybdis

Homeschool Mom3 Wrote: Oct 03, 2012 12:23 PM
It's a long trail of bad decisions most of the time. Too many women don't take their biological clocks seriously so they prioritize the wrong things at the wrong time. They focus on career and casual dating during their prime childbearing years (their 20s) and marriage in their 30s. Then they decide to have a baby as their fertility is decreasing naturally with age and some get hit with the realization they are part of the 7% of those with additional fertility issues. Fertility treatment options are expensive and can be time consuming. With time and funds running out they opt for implanting more than one or two babies at a time with IVF or with risky ovulation drugs. Then they justify killing their babies out of "prudence. "
Kathy119 Wrote: Oct 03, 2012 2:27 PM
Wow, glad your life turned out nicely all wrapped in a bow. You might be surprised to learn that many fertility doctors will not implant more than one or two embryos as a precaution for both the mother's and baby's health. It does make the chances of pregnancy in one cycle less likely but avoids the possibility of more than twins unless the embryo splits naturally. I went through infertility treatments and think this is a great option, as most people who struggle to have a baby don't want to then kill one. It's a pretty big stretch to go from a poor medical practice of implanting too many embryos to pad the doctor's success rate to a condemnation of all women who make choices different than yours.
faultroy Wrote: Oct 03, 2012 2:22 PM
And, you neglected to mention the fact that a males sperm is "corrupted" with age as well--at least according to the newest research). Perhaps in the "interests of the child," we may have to pass legislation "outlawing" men and women having children in other than "approved age brackets." After all, we can't put the "fetus" in any jeopordy now can we??---LOL!!! As in all things: 1) actions have consequences. 2) Moderation is the key in all things.
RockerbabefromGeorgia Wrote: Oct 03, 2012 1:10 PM
In todays social and economic enviroment, finding a good man who can and is willing to support a woman and children is increasingly difficult. The divorce rate is 50% in some areas. Women pursue career and dating in an effort to secure financial stability in which to have and raise children and dating is the route to the hope of finding a compatiable mate for the long haul. So, what part of this do you not understand? Infertility often does not just :show up" later in life; for many, infertility begins in the teens.
Being a mother is hard work and often older women are more apt to do the hard work of mothering. Give these women some credit; women are more than just baby makers. They are breadwinners, family members, etc.
Anominus Wrote: Oct 03, 2012 1:51 PM
There is good reasoning behind the roles of the sexes, with men being the traditional "breadwinners" and women being in the home to raise and nurture children - it has much to do with out natural drives. There will always be exceptions, but stepping away from these roles, whether by choice or by accident, will generally produce less than optimal results.

Women had a hand in creating the family situation of today, especially in the form of the feminist movement's belittling of the value of traditional roles, men in general, and women who choose to remain in the home. Women gained access to the professional businesses, but, in doing so, they did a great deal of damage to themselves and their chances at having a family.
DCM in FL Wrote: Oct 03, 2012 2:17 PM
"finding a good man who can and is willing to support a woman and children is increasingly difficult"

Too many men are being enabled at NOT being real men.
faultroy Wrote: Oct 03, 2012 2:25 PM
Yes, and things are going to radically change again when the male birth control pill finally hits the market (only a few years away--clinical trial are ongoing). Imagine, men will be able to litterally take a pill to staunch being saddled with a child they did not want--what will women do when it is no longer completely their decision to make??? Stay tuned for even more radical changes in our society!!!!!!
faultroy Wrote: Oct 03, 2012 2:25 PM
Yes, and things are going to radically change again when the male birth control pill finally hits the market (only a few years away--clinical trial are ongoing). Imagine, men will be able to litterally take a pill to staunch being saddled with a child they did not want--what will women do when it is no longer completely their decision to make??? Stay tuned for even more radical changes in our society!!!!!!
Homeschool Mom3 Wrote: Oct 03, 2012 12:31 PM
Real prudence for men and women is about living like an adult in your 20s (not like frat boys) dating carefully with marriage in mind (eliminating a huge percentage of the dating pool) and planning to wrap up your childbearing by 30 so that if you do have fertility issues, you have time to make good choices when it comes to fertility treatment options. Ladies, you can focus on career when the kids are in school.

A lot of people, conservatives in particular, tend to idealize the past. We like to wax lyrical about simpler times, the "good old days." Of course, if we are honest we have to admit that those good old days weren't always so great. The passage of time and progress of society have brought many blessings – civil, cultural, and technological. Society today is freer, fairer, safer, and more comfortable. Unfortunately many of the blessings of progress come at a cost. The same technologies that make life healthier and more comfortable can also present us with previously unimagined ethical dilemmas. This...

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