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Oops, and I left out the mixed race adults I personally know who have had a wide range of experiences that indicate that there are issues to be addressed. They've been dealt with successfully and they're thriving but those issues make significant demands of people.
Please explain to me your background that supports your expertise on this subject. I've read literally thousands of pages of studies, first hand experiences by adult adoptees of all ages and origins, books by attachment therapists and other trained medical professionals who work with adoptees and their collective experience indicates that there are. Not insurmountable ones, but real ones that have to be dealt with none the less. Your inexperienced "nuh uh" just doesn't mean much compared to that.
I think important issues are being ignored so the author can pat himself on the back for not being racist. 1) People pay big bucks go to a sperm bank and look thorough catalogs of men so they can make a selection based on very specific criteria. While I don't approve of it, I understand that failing to deliver the product specifically chosen is like fraud and it doesn't surprise me that a lawsuit would be required to force change. Fraud tied to creating their child is something you can expect people to have a very strong reaction to. 2) As the Caucasian parent of two biological children and one child adopted from S. Korea, there really are additional issues that a child in an interracial family has to do deal with that children who are not part of interracial families (biological or not) have to deal with. There are additional parenting issues that have to be dealt with. Good adoption agencies not only prepare parents for it through hours and hours of parenting classes, but screen out parents who have any ambivalence or underlying discomfort with it because they're morally obligated to do so on behalf of the children they place for adoption. Few things would be worse for a mixed race or different race child born or placed into a home where not everyone is happy about it. THAT'S what this lawsuit is probably really about-avoiding that kind of nightmare for some poor innocent child in the future stuck with a parent(s) who aren't OK with it unlike the child in this article whose parents are OK with it. 3) I relactated for my adopted child with the help of a reporductive endochronologist at a fertility clinic. As a paying client we were added to their annual picnic in the park list. OF COURSE we didn't go. Can you imagine the assumptions that would have been made about our situation? Few Americans even know relacatation is possible for adoptive mothers, and fewer know the process can be done faster with hormonal treatments that can be provided by fertility clinics. People at that clinic picnic would've assumed there was a mix up with sperm and that would've reflected VERY badly on the clinic. I'm completely OK with adoption and we chose not to hire a surrogate to carry a biological baby for us and adopted internationally instead, where as people screened out of that process or who choose not to take that route should have other options, including those that allow people to choose their sperm donors even if their mindset annoys me.
Where's the rest of the article? You know, the part where he stops defining the problem and gives practical, specific, concrete solutions? It's easy to preach to the choir in platitudes and abstractions. Americans seem to like that. What's not easy is looking at what, if anything, actually works on a large scale and how exactly individuals can do that on a day to day basis, if the problem can even be solved by individuals. Then there are all those pesky rights individuals have when it comes to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness and there's little others can do about those who choose badly. You know, all that stuff every society has always had to grapple with. Last time things got significantly better was during The Great Awakening. That happened in the churches, not at the ballot box or through legislation in Congress. It requires regeneration by the Holy Spirit. I can't make that happen for others. I can only be a witness to how faith in Jesus Christ did that for me. Even the disciples had to dust off their sandals and move on when people didn't respond to the gospel. What else can we do? If we get outer conformity without inner transformation, we're encouraging Pharisees, or as Jesus called them, "white washed tombs."
For the record, there is a spectrum of courtship practices in the homeschooling community. The Duggars are close to the extreme end. Don't assume everyone who courts does it the way they do. My girls aren't courting so I don't have a dog in that fight but I point it out because it's such a foreign concept to most Americans that I cringe thinking most people will assume the Duggar version is representative of all courtship. There are articles coming out online about the serious downsides to the more extreme versions of courtship by those who lived it. Understand that there are milder and much milder versions to choose from. As far as I know the Duggars are using Switched on School House which is private school online at home. This is legally homeschooling but most homeschoolers do the actual teaching themselves. Private school online at home is a wonderful option and so is public school online at home and charter school online at home, but we have too many new homeschoolers coming in thinking that this is the norm for homeschooling. It's not. If you plan to homeschool you need to be open the option of doing the teaching yourself because you have more flexibility and choices that way. Packaged schooling in whatever form-complete curriculum in a box or complete curriculum online works for few people. Most find they have to make adjustments over time in multiple subjects to meet the needs of each individual child.
No, they'll pay attention to whatever government agency distributes the vouchers and regulates what criteria the private schools and homeschools must meet to get them. The government has failed when it comes to public schools. You don't put failures in control of access to a successful entities like private schools and homeschools and get good results. You're just inviting trouble.
No, in my state public school online at home and public charter school online at home are legally public school. You cannot legally be considered both a homeschooler while doing government school online in your home. It's a great public school option that every parent in America should have access to, but it's still public school. Homeschooling isn't about location, it's about parents teaching their children themselves with materials the parents have selected. Co-ops are a term commonly misused in the homeschooling community. In a real co-op parents divide the teaching between them. Every parent contributes teaching time. That's different than a class. Classes are where one or two parents do the teaching of their and other people's children. Sometimes it's a volunteer situation and sometimes there are fees. If you're a parent who chooses this type of education for all of your child's education, you may be legally allowed to use the term homeschooler, but few homeschoolers who do most the teaching of the their children themselves, particularly in core subjects, will consider you as such. There's all the difference in the world between dropping your kid off at someone else's house for someone else to teach them and teaching a child yourself. I think this option needs it's own legally recognized and legally protected term. It could be another great option for parents all over America. Let's be clear, this option is tutorial education that some homeschoolers use, but certainly not the majority of homeschoolers. Most only use it for higher level classes or enrichment classes. As much as the author doesn't want to say so, homeschooling really is mom (sometimes dad and sometimes both) doing the actual curriculum selection and the actual teaching. That's the norm. Don't go into homeschooling thinking otherwise.
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The Dead-End Road Called Pre-K

Homeschool Mom3 Wrote: Aug 26, 2014 2:01 PM
Children don't need pre-K, preschool or kindergarten. They need mothers who read quality picture books to them, teach them to behave, encourage outdoor and creative play and love them.
That's why a Classical Trivium, Liberal Arts Education, in the original sense of the terms with the original rigorous academic demands, should be had in grades K-12. Then kids should get career training either through a useful degree or specific skilled labor after high school. It's not either or, it's when and how. To see what a great education used to be and can be again, read The Lost Tools of Learning by Sayers and The Well Trained Mind by Bauer. I warn you, if you do, you'll be outraged at the mediocre education you got and the one your kids are getting in PS and possibly at the local private schools...maybe even your homeschool. American education has been aggressively dumbed down for the last 100+ years. So much so that most people have no idea what is possible anymore because the government school monopoly has made them completely unaware of other options. Most people just don't know that they don't know.
When REPs run against this kind of thing, they need to do it in an intelligent way. If REPs continue to be the party of "Nuh uh" rather than the party of practical solutions, they'll fail yet again. If you insist on a public school system for people who are not poor or wards of the state, then I suggest proposing national, objective, measurable, essential academic skills in reading, writing and math and then allowing each state, district and school the freedom to meet those goals with whatever curriculum and pedagogy they choose. That way schools that have students in demographics least likely to value education at home can focus on just the basics for longer periods of time and schools that have students in demographics more likely to value education can add in other subjects. It allows teachers and schools the flexibility and decision making that has been wrongfully stolen from them while at the same time making teachers and schools accountable to the taxpayers for the shocking amounts of their money dumped into the system. Also, annual academic tracking of each student, classroom, school, district and state should be done to evaluate children at the beginning of the year and at the end of the year. We have the technology. That way you can compare students from the same demographic in the same school and the same grade. Is one teacher getting significantly better results than others? Is one school in the same area with the same demographics getting significantly better results than others? Is one district with the same demographics getting significantly better results than others? Those outperforming others should get into the teacher/administration training business. Those doing significantly worse should be shown the door.
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