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Single Belles, Single All the Way

HeraldOfGalactus Wrote: Dec 07, 2012 8:22 AM
Well ask another question. What incentive do these women have to marry these young men and what incentive do these young men have to accept the proposal? I would encourage you to google the divorce settlements of Kobe Bryant and Tiger Woods for your answer.
HeraldOfGalactus Wrote: Dec 07, 2012 11:21 AM
True, but that still wouldn't address the issues surrounding alimony. And the way the current laws are structured, a spouse can get the other to pay them even if children aren't involved.
midfielder2 Wrote: Dec 07, 2012 11:15 AM
In both cases, if the scumbags invoved had kept their pants on there would have been no settlement.
HeraldOfGalactus Wrote: Dec 07, 2012 9:54 AM
I'm not saying those expectations are unreasonable, but I think it's unreasonable to expect people to ignore the incentives I mentioned. However, I do believe that it's possible to change these incentives. They're not static. They're laws. Laws and regulations CAN be changed and until they are, we'll have generations of people who think these poor incentives are 'normal.'
Mother of 4 -- the original Wrote: Dec 07, 2012 9:48 AM
Actually I do expect people to behavior morally regardless. That's what morals are about.
HeraldOfGalactus Wrote: Dec 07, 2012 9:44 AM
You're right. It should be. But in recent decades, the laws have given them other options that they have been exercising/exploiting. The system as it stands is not conducive to good, stable marriages. And we can't expect everyone to be responsible and not exploit a system that has become increasingly flawed.
Mother of 4 -- the original Wrote: Dec 07, 2012 8:35 AM
The incentive should be simple -- women having enough self-respect to demand that men prove their worth by committing to them rather than giving out sex freely.
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