Rebecca Hagelin

On the daily stage of life, teenage girls sext their boyfriends because, well, that’s what sexy grown-ups do, right? Sixteen-year-old girls, ‘comfortable with their bodies’ and feeling sophisticated, wear short shorts with their bottoms hanging out and cleavage-baring tops to school, in the name of ‘personal style'. And sex ed classes tell kids to have sex when they are “ready” (instead of when they are married), marking sexual behavior as a ‘coming of age’ thing instead of a deep personal expression of love and lifetime commitment. Our kids learn instead that ‘growing up’ means, “You have the right to remind us that you have sex, and that you like it.”

So Miley’s all grown up. She’s also incredibly 'successful’ and making millions off of her irresponsible behavior. Miley's just another desperate "star", so caught up in her obsession with self, that she's willing to use our sons and daughters to line her pockets and further corrode American culture. Her tawdry sexual display was the talk of Twitterand the morning shows. And her new “brand” is garnering tons of attention around the world and a lot of cash.

How to Save Your Family: Define “maturity” and “success”

Parents, don’t let your kids grow up to be Miley.

I know, you’re probably not worried that your daughter’s lip syncing will bring the talent scouts knocking. But you should be worried that your sons and daughters will be vulnerable to the ‘Miley messages’ about maturity and success.

Maturity doesn’t mean the ability to do ‘adult’ things; it’s a reflection of becoming an adult “on the inside.” Maturity requires the long-term view and prioritizes according to life’s enduring realities. It depends on character traits that form the authentic foundation for adulthood: responsibility, respect, kindness, deliberation, prudence, honor, and self-discipline.

What Miley doesn’t realize is that “growing up” is not a function of age or exposure to adult things. Maturity is something acquired along the way, as we build character and orient our lives towards the things that last. And that’s why it’s equally important that our children understand what real success looks like.

Success is not money, power, status—or having millions of fans. Success means living a good life, in light of eternal realities, and being the “best” at what God calls us to be as we strive to love God and people above all else.

Rebecca Hagelin

Rebecca Hagelin is a public speaker on the family and culture and the author of the new best seller, 30 Ways in 30 Days to Save Your Family.
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