The study contrasts starkly with a slanted 2010 report, which claimed children suffer no harm when mothers return to work within three months of birth. That conclusion, however, stands on shaky legs. Researchers in effect dismissed the negative effects on children’s cognitive and social development by offsetting them against the benefits of higher income, career progress for mom, and quality day-care. (As if an infant would value mom’s promotion over a stronger attachment to mom.)
Feminists and employers relentlessly pressure women to return to work too early, or, as in Connie’s case, to replace part-time work with full-time hours while their children still need time and attention.
The vast majority (62%) of working moms, however, want to be their children’s primary caregivers and would prefer part-time work to full-time employment.
It’s common sense, really. The best moms are most responsive to their children. But responsiveness takes physical presence, first of all. It also takes knowledge--a function of time. Only by spending time with our children will we learn to read their cues and respond to their needs.
It’s not only young children who need their moms, however. Our older children confront a bewildering blur of social problems, from pornography, to sexualized fashions and explicit entertainment to drugs and violence. The casualties of poorly mothered children surround us.
But parents want to do right by their kids--82% of us say that family is the most important thing in our lives, bar none.
If that’s true for you, Moms, then on this Mother’s Day commit to giving your children more of what they really need - YOU.