Regnerus and Uecker conclude with a research-based list of ten myths about sex, exposing the insidious harm of our culture’s prevailing mantra. It should be required reading for both parents and older adolescents.
How to Save Your Family: Share a “Sexual Script” Based on Truth
The new research in Premarital Sex in America demonstrates that young adults do in fact reflect the sexual scripts of their communities. “Other people’s sexual choices matter. Collectively they function as a powerful constraint on our own behavior.” Our children will do best when they find a flourishing community of like-minded people who will commit to a common sexual ethic that follows God’s script rather than Sex and the City’s.
Young people motivated to live in sexual purity (and to enjoy the freedom that brings) need to surround themselves with others equally committed to the same ideals. Church youth groups, fellowship opportunities, and accountability teams may provide friendship and support. Our young people need to know they are not alone in their choice to live sexually pure lives.
Let your daughters know that research shows that women are, in fact, the sexual gatekeepers in relationships—that means they must stand firm, embracing sexual purity. The guys who are worth it will wait for sex and the guys who are not will leave—good riddance.
Whatever it takes, do your part to help the young people in your life sort through and find the messages worthy of who they were created to be.