There's nothing a teenager hates more than being manipulated, yet they are so skillfully twisted by today's media world that they don't even know it. Encourage them to dissect advertisements and look critically at programming content and how it shapes their own attitudes. Show them how they are being preyed upon. I highly recommend viewing with them a PBS video entitled, "The Merchants of Cool." Produced several years ago it is still the definitive study on how teens are being used by an industry peddling a worldview that keeps them hyped up and caught up in the worst inclinations of the teen years. Viewing the program together will help foster a closer relationship and joint understanding of what to do next. We must deliberately work to bring out the best of the transitional teen years - a time that is supposed to be a bridge from childhood into responsible adulthood. Rally around your children during these vulnerable years and find other adults who will help you shape your girls into women of intelligence and virtue and your sons into gentlemen of strong character. Parents must cut through the garbage and make adolescence productive, fun and healthy. But it doesn't happen by accident or by absentee parenting. It takes your time and daily commitment to them as people, determined to pass on your values instead of the values of those who only see your children as cash cows.