It’s not uncommon for parents who fight the culture on a daily basis to assume they’re alone -- that no one else shares their concerns.
But the responses I received when I wrote a column last month about my near-futile efforts to find modest clothing for my 13-year-old daughter, Kristin, proves otherwise. Many parents are fighting the same fight --and quite a few were kind enough to write me encouraging notes. The details of our frustrating shopping trip, which yielded only two acceptable items out of the dozens that Kristin tried on, evidently touched a cord.
So with back-to-school season underway, let me share a few responses:
• “Your column really hit the mark. I am the proud father of a beautiful, blue-eyed 12-year-old tween. We also have body-honoring standards of dress in our family. One of our most stressful times is clothes shopping. … Clothes made specifically to ‘adultize’ our little ones do not pass muster in our house.”
• “I thought we were the only ones having a problem with current fashion. Please tell Kristin to keep on being strong for morality among her peers. You both are needed as a witness in this world of near nudity.”
• “I have just had a very similar experience (in the UK!) with my lovely 13-year-old daughter, who is also desperately battling the conflicting messages she’s getting from magazines, TV and her own peers. She knows what’s right, but she’s desperate to be seen as ‘cool.’ We read the article together, and it really helped her to know there are other girls like her out there -- and also other mums like me!”
• “My wife and I have two beautiful teenage daughters. Every time she takes them bathing-suit shopping, she comes home exasperated. The girls try their new suits on for me, I complain that they’re too immodest, they complain that these were the most modest ones they found.”
I could go on, but you get the idea. I have a folder filed with similar responses. They come from everywhere -- from fathers, mothers, grandfathers and grandmothers. So let me assure the parents reading this: You aren’t alone! Thousands of families are going through the same thing. So don’t give up.
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