The way to deal with bullies is not to bow down to them, and not to pass laws or resolutions that say “bullies shall not be bullies” (every failed or flouted U.N. resolution and sanction is evidence of just that). The only way to deal with bullies is to look them straight in the eye and to deal with them in the only language they understand: the language of the bully.
A caller to The Dennis Prager Radio Show last week shared her personal story about bullying. After she was bullied as a child, she took it out on her little brother. “I was very physically and verbally abusive with my younger brother,” she said. “I would beat him up often and, when he would cry out, I would tell him ‘You can’t cry out. In the real world, no one’s gonna listen to you. You gotta fight back.’” So that’s what her little brother did. He learned to fight back against bullies. Today, he has forgiven his sister, lives with a happy and light heart, and is grateful to his sister for opening his eyes and making him the man he is today. What kind of man is he today? A Marine. A strong and proud Marine sniper, now on his second tour of Afghanistan, facing some of the world’s worst bullies the only way they deserve – down the barrel of a gun.
Here is how my bullying story ended. After years of being terrorized by bullies, and wishing in vain that my bullies would go away or tire of tormenting me, I finally decided to change tactics. I grabbed the biggest, meanest bully by the throat, slammed him against a wall, lifted him off the ground, and breathed my warning into his shocked and trembling face. I cannot remember what I said to him. But I could tell, from the terrified look in his eyes, that he believed every damn word of it. Because I spoke to him in the language that he understood. The language of the bully.
My years of torment ended in that moment. I was never bullied again.
That is how you deal with bullies.