Sex Education Lesson: Beat Up the Virgins

Mary Grabar
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Posted: Dec 19, 2007 10:41 AM
Sex Education Lesson: Beat Up the Virgins

            Today’s sex education and teen pregnancy prevention advocates claim that they stand ready with contraceptives and factual information to assist teens and preteens presumably possessed by the raging hormone monster.  The notion that their programs would somehow encourage sexual activity is laughable, they charge. 

But a series of videos for teens promoted through a teen pregnancy prevention program, G-CAPP (Georgia Campaign for Adolescent Pregnancy Prevention), mocks the idea of abstinence.  The web page’s resources link [http://www.gcapp.org/resources/justForYouth.htm] encourages “youth” to “check out the Midwest Teen Sex Show—video podcasts about teen sexuality” that are intended to “provide sex information in a clear and entertaining way.”  The segment on “Abstinence” shows an actress playing the part of a girl beaten to the point of brain damage and slurring, “But I respect my body.” 

            These podcasts are introduced with a sign held by a gyrating, scantily clad nubile teenager in a farm field.  The porno-inspired intro ends with her on all fours with the sign in her mouth.           

            Such an intro gives a pretty good idea of the producers’ attitudes on “Abstinence.”  The reasons given for abstinence are: no sexually transmitted diseases, being more sexually desirable (which is presumed to be the sine qua non of teens’ existence), and no children.   “You don’t have to sit through boring Cub Scout meetings,” says the cool young female host before the very un-cool Cub Scout comes on.  

            The “cons,” however, far outweigh the “pros.” 

            First “con” is that abstinence is “really bo-ring!”  “Like all the cool kids are having sex and they’re gonna’ laugh at you if you’re not.”  This is when the beat-up brain-damaged girl comes on to illustrate the point.            

To the reason, “I’m saving myself for marriage,” the host comes back with, “It’s highly unrealistic you’ll be able to save yourself for marriage. . . . If you succeed, I feel bad for your spouse.  Sex takes practice.  You can’t just read a book to learn how to do it.”  

The two reasons given for not having sex are that you may not “be ready,” i.e., you may have “fears and questions” and that someone is “pressuring you into it.”  The green light is given to those whose “fears and questions” have been addressed (by these podcasts) and who have chosen partners, time, and place on their own.

              One of the sponsors of the series is a brand of condoms called “Abstinence.”  A commercial features a father coming into a teen daughter’s bedroom, seeming to be preparing to lecture her on abstaining from sex with her boyfriend.  She brushes him off.  He then hands her a pack of “Abstinence” condoms.  In what is the producers’ idea of father-daughter bonding, the girl smiles gratefully at him.

One segment claims to be educational, but “not like the porn your parents showed you.”  Really?  Parents show their children pornography?  (Well, if yours don’t, the message seems to be, most parents do.)

            The segment on masturbation promotes masturbation as a stress reliever: “Masturbation is the anti-drug,” says the host.

            To underscore the anti-family, anti-love, anti-parent message, a link is provided to a worksheet.  A column is provided where each participant, “Preteen/Teen” and “Parent,” can put in the age he or she thinks appropriate for such things as “Date,” “Undress in front of a boyfriend/girlfriend,” or “Have sexual intercourse.” 

            The “Notes to Teens and Parents” at the bottom says, “As you do this exercise and discuss your responses, please listen to each other.  Ask the other person to talk about why he/she feels that an age is appropriate or acceptable for the particular behavior.  Remember that these are individual values, not eternal truths. . . .”

            Parents are then cautioned that their teens will make private decisions as they move into young adulthood.  Although nothing is mentioned about the “young adults” supporting themselves, parents are told that they will have “no control over [their sexual] decisions.”

            Likewise, teens are asked to listen to parents for their experience and wisdom that might help them make “difficult decisions; but in the end, the decisions are yours to make.”

            This teen pregnancy prevention program has gotten government funding and has the stamp of approval from Atlanta mayor Shirley Franklin who attended the gala fundraiser for it, which also doubled as founder Jane Fonda’s birthday party.  Among the guests at the caviar event were Sally let-women-rule-the-world Fields and humanitarian (womanitarian?) vagina worshipper Eve Ensler, who also could somehow afford the $49,000 donation commitment. 

Jane Fonda’s glitzy shindig and the fact that at age 70 she’s “having sex” made it to the front page of the Atlanta newspaper.  During her 17-year stay in Atlanta, Fonda has been on a public relations campaign to shed her image as Hanoi Jane, reviled by veterans who suffered at the hands of the enemy due to her traitorous acts.  But today a major publisher believes that Jane Fonda has the authority to write a series of books on parenting and a memoir about the final third of her life.  And she is hailed for her “charity” work involving teens.

            Sally Fields reportedly tearfully gushed on about how much Fonda has meant to her as a role model.  Indeed, since her leggings-clad, big hair days, Fonda has been iconic to baby boomer women, who subscribed to her idea that sexual freedom meant empowerment.  But as I look around, I see that such a sexual revolution message has brought boomer women to their own lonely third phase, with children aborted due to the pressure of the live-in boyfriend, who decided after years of the benefits of cohabitation not to commit to marriage.  Not many of these lonely, single boomer women can afford the celebrity’s pretense of youth and freedom gained by plastic surgery and personal trainers. 

Now the harm of the sexual revolution is now being spread to children, particularly teen and preteen girls.  In language and imagery that alternates between baby talk and pornography, girls are told that being beat up for being a virgin is something to be laughed at, that motherhood is filled with horrible Cub Scout meetings, and that parents are useless idiots (unless they hand out condoms).  Hustler publisher Larry Flynt couldn’t have come up with a better series of videos preparing young girls to be ready partners for any male who wants to exploit them.