Times may have changed for some, who more readily accept the family variations that increasingly are called “normal” in American culture. But times have not changed for children. To deliberately create a family structure based on the myth that “a parent is a parent” can only be labeled selfish, since it’s the needs and desires of the adults, not the children, which are pursued.
Men and women are not interchangeable (as Ms. Cholodenko and Ms. Melvoin, and Mr. Harris and Mr. Burtka would doubtless agree), and neither are mothers and fathers. Each plays a unique and vital role in the development of a whole person, which is why children always want and need both a mom and a dad.
Our culture already battles the far-reaching implications of nearly 40 percent births out of wedlock. Now the rich and famous are promoting a new kind of abandonment: motherless and fatherless children of gay couples.
It may be the rage in Hollywood, but it’s not “normal.” It’s not healthy. It’s not good for children. And as we’ll see in due time, it’s not good for the culture.