A 2012 study by Leslie Gordon Simons (et al.) looked at more than 2,000 college students: “Results indicate that respondents from continuously married families were more committed to marriage, and this commitment reduced the probability of risky sexual behavior.”
So Dinesh, by choosing divorce, you may not only put at risk your teen's life, health and faith in marriage -- but even her faith in God.
”Parental breakup is associated with religious decline among ... youth characterized by high levels of religious salience,” according to a March 2012 study by Melinda Lundquist Denton.
If we were really close, I would plead with D'Souza: Don't do this. Don't do this to your daughter. Don't do this to the wife of your youth. Don't do this to those former students of yours at King's College, young and idealistic and hopeful about marriage, scared and scarred by divorce.
If I were your mom from Bombay, I would say, above all, please don't do this to marry a recently married woman half your age that you've known just three months. It has “karma” written all over it.
I buried my own mother this summer.
Perhaps that's what makes me feel so urgently that time is just too short to let that wretched little imperious winged baby with the bow and arrow have his fickle way with you.
After all, is marriage such a horrible cross to bear?
With marriage, you choose one woman. You promise to love just her the way that God loves everyone, until death do you part.
So love her. Keep your vows close. Keep your people closer. Show your children, show other people's children, that in this too-swift race between love and death, which is all that our lives are, that love can be trusted.
If Christians could just do that and nothing else, it would transform our culture.
If we cannot do that, I fear, nothing else will.
Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.